It's funny how little things can trigger or inspire something else.This article was significantly induced by words from a rapper.More specifically,from a video by Kanye West.I was watching 'Good Life',his current single featuring T-Pain,when i observed it.Yes,as a fan of the Chicago rapper/producer,i've heard this track many times over on my ipod & tv,but some of the lyrics actually just dawned on me today.A line from one of kanye's verses in the hit song goes:'Having money isn't everything.Not having it is'.Hmmm.True,we know such a line's to be expected from an arrogant artiste who's nicknamed 'Louis Vuitton Don'.However,this got me thinking,especially as it relates to love etc.We've all heard at various times that the the best things in life are free.There are those who say that 'air' is the only thing that comes without a fee.Many true romantics claim that true love can't be bought.I also remember Eddie Murphy's popular comedy ''Coming to America'',in which he hides his actual wealth from a girl he liked,just to see if she truly loved him for him.As it was a Hollywood picture,it had a sweet ending as she genuinely fell in love with Mr. Murphy's wonderful,poor self and later discovered that he was actually the prince of a rich african king.Now,back to reality.Does that really happen in most societies? A rich guy marrying a girl who's probably drawn to him mainly for his cash has its own share of risk.How about if his wealth unfortunately evaporates,years into the marriage?Any guarantees she'll be there for richer or 'poorer' like she affectionately promised to on the wedding day?Will Smith's situation in the fact-based 'Pursuit of Happyness' is a tragic case study.As we know,there have been cases where woman have married 'poor' men.Singer/actress Jennifer Lopez's short-lived marriage to her ex-dancer Chris Judd easily comes to mind.Although in that scenario,it was convenient for her to walk down the aisle since she was already a millionaire at the time.Truthfully,one can't tell how partners would react if rosy times suddenly turned drought-like.It's true that with money,the courtship/toasting is obviously easier as wining,dining,gifts & co. are catalysts for a 'faster' attraction between toaster and toastee.So is not having money a path to doomsday,romantically speaking?Or should a broke chap cut his coat according to his size(pardon my cruel analogy),i.e lower his taste?Yes,more times that not,the wealthy get hitched to beautiful partners,but are the hottest necessarily the best?Remember the adage 'don't judge a book by it's cover'.Well,i guess the debate can go on for years.
I know some who read this piece would be saying ''see the rubbish this 'poor' man is uttering''.
4 comments:
A lot of times, money makes people insecure, in the sense they think everyone who comes to them wants just their money.
A lot of us also judge people based on our past relationship and it really shouldn't be, so that gives us pseudo wahala in our relationships...
"Love simply cannot be bought with money."
If a guy has wealth, and his lady loves him, then his wealth is only a plus. If a marriage is based on riches alone, it would be heading towards a termination. Hence, dudes who lose their wealth during the course of a marriage are likely to get a divorce...it's sad, esp since the rates of divorce are on the rise today...
I don't understand why anyone would hide their wealth from a potential suitor. Your money is part of what makes you who you are. Should a comedian not be funny when he is dating? Should a politician hide his interest for current affairs when he is dating? Should an intellectual act stupid on a date? Should a nice dresser dress shabby when he is dating... what we have and what we are is part of who we are. I don't see any reason why we should hide who we are from who we want to be. If you're dorm enough not to be able to sieve the gold diggers then maybe you don't deserve your wealth. - Ally Baba
Anyone who jugdes a book by its cover can not be but to be referred to as a fool.Money isnt Love and Love isnt money.We have instances whereby a guy or a gal cld be loaded and their partner wld really like them and not cos of the moeny but many atimes its always the reverse.I ve always tot any gal/guy who walks down the aisle cos of money and then walks out when the monwy isnt there anymore shldnt be called a man or a woman.It happens alot and thats very pathetic.If u like someone and ure not rich,do wat u have to do and if she doesnt accept u that way yhen u step.dnt let the fact that u dnt have money make u feel inferior to anyone......as a lady,i know money is very relevant in a relationship but its not the ultimate.it cld even be the reason and cos the end of the relationship.U shld just cut ur coat according to ur size.......
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